A dabbler is someone who likes new and exciting things. They get enthused in the beginning and before you know it, they’re bored and starting the process all over again with something else. However, to win at anything in life you have to be able to persist and truly commit yourself to that which you have started.
To break the habit of giving up after losing interest in what you have started, you first have to sit yourself down and figure out what it is that you want and enjoy before your next pursuit.
If you are serious about breaking the habit of being a dabbler, you should take inventory of the things that you have been engaged in before be it a job that you quit because you lost interest, a sporting activity because it became boring or even a relationship. What are some of the commonalities between the things you have started and stopped due to lost interest?
If you know that there is a lack of interest in something that you have been enthused about previously, that’s only the beginning. It is going to be your decision in those moments that will make the difference.
Why did you start in the first place? Was it for instant gratification or to satisfy your ego? How do you overcome the dabbler mentality to finally have some accomplishment and see something come to fruition? I believe that you can make the shift from being a quitter to a finisher.
Don’t find another excuse, especially if you want to win at the game of life.
You are not powerless. You can stay with your pursuit if you want to. You can win at the game of life.
Try these to break the dabbler habit-
- Discover your true intentions – So you can get to the bottom of what you are seeking to get from all your adventures.
- Analyze your emotions – So you can become more aware of the pattern of starting and stopping to find the source of each particular emotion behind your actions.
- Be part of a community that knows you and supports you – To have someone hold you accountable and honest with you as they’ll be able to remind you of your intentions.
- Be honest with yourself about who you are – To change a behavior you first have to be honest about it.
- Leave room for discomfort – i.e. when the enthusiasm is not there for what you’ve started, but must know that discomfort is not a bad thing it is to help you grow and go to the next level.
- Exercise self-love even when you feel like quitting – i.e. you must not give up on yourself and don’t feel like a failure by all means do take the easy way out. Work past your hump and see where it takes you.
- Remember that Rome was not build in a day – everything takes time and quick fixes last only for a short time.