7 Ways To Overcome The Dabbler Mentality

Ambition is the path to successYou can break the habit of being a dabbler.

A dabbler is someone who likes new and exciting things. They get enthused in the beginning and before you know it, they’re bored and starting the process all over again with something else. However, to win at anything in life you have to be able to persist and truly commit yourself to that which you have started.

To break the habit of giving up after losing interest in what you have started, you first have to sit yourself down and figure out what it is that you want and enjoy before your next pursuit.

If you are serious about breaking the habit of being a dabbler, you should take inventory of the things that you have been engaged in before be it a job that you quit because you lost interest, a sporting activity because it became boring or even a relationship. What are some of the commonalities between the things you have started and stopped due to lost interest?

If you know that there is a lack of interest in something that you have been enthused about previously, that’s only the beginning. It is going to be your decision in those moments that will make the difference.

Why did you start in the first place? Was it for instant gratification or to satisfy your ego? How do you overcome the dabbler mentality to finally have some accomplishment and see something come to fruition? I believe that you can make the shift from being a quitter to a finisher.

Don’t find another excuse, especially if you want to win at the game of life.

You are not powerless. You can stay with your pursuit if you want to. You can win at the game of life.

Try these to break the dabbler habit-

  • Discover your true intentions – So you can get to the bottom of what you are seeking to get from all your adventures.
  • Analyze your emotions – So you can become more aware of the pattern of starting and stopping to find the source of each particular emotion behind your actions.
  • Be part of a community that knows you and supports you – To have someone hold you accountable and honest with you as they’ll be able to remind you of your intentions.
  • Be honest with yourself about who you are – To change a behavior you first have to be honest about it.
  • Leave room for discomfort – i.e. when the enthusiasm is not there for what you’ve started, but must know that discomfort is not a bad thing it is to help you grow and go to the next level.
  • Exercise self-love even when you feel like quitting – i.e. you must not give up on yourself and don’t feel like a failure by all means do take the easy way out. Work past your hump and see where it takes you.
  • Remember that Rome was not build in a day – everything takes time and quick fixes last only for a short time.

 Before you go: Please share on Facebook/Google+/Twitter. Follow us on Facebook and Twitter. Subscribe to receive email updates.

Thank you for your support!



4 responses to “7 Ways To Overcome The Dabbler Mentality

  1. Inese Poga Art Gallery

    This is so true! Good post which makes one think and realize the true ways to achievements.

  2. Richard, it is most interesting to read and absorb your inspired analyses and the greatest commonality is our thought processes, our attitudes and how we perceive where we have come from and where we are going.

    Equally interesting, I have never really been one to exercise in-depth self-examination of purpose and goals until the past fifteen years. One of my greatest perceived failures in my life, looking back, was the failure of my first marriage. It took me years to fully look beyond the surface to understand and accept the reasons for that failure.

    As much as I felt crippled by that marital failure I subsequently came to the realization that the only way I would experience happiness and success ever again would be to accept the past life I could not change and move on with a different focus and outlook. I had to reinvent ME and decide what I wanted out of life and get on with acquiring that happiness and success…albeit one day at a time and as you have reflected “Rome was not built in a day.” Rebuilding my life out of the ‘ruins’ seemed a monumental task yet very positive changes have taken place in my life as a result of my willingness to recognize past mistakes and let it all go…to move on with even greater determination than ever before.

    I have sacrificed much with even more to gain. Loving self may have been my greatest hurdle in the face of adversity. Years of experience have taught me that I was hurting no-one more than myself by living in denial. We sometimes forget that we are human and less than perfect…that it’s ok to fail and more importantly to rise above past adversity to come out stronger and more resolute than ever before.

    Your thoughts resonate and indeed empower Richard. Thank you.

    • “Our thoughts resonates” Don I have been really noticing that as well and how what you share through your comments solidifies what was shared.

      What I also love about what you share is the honesty, the openness which give other readers a platform from which they too can push past life challenges.

      In fact, it is in our honesty of where we are that will eventually free us from further self-sabotage.

      Don, I really look forward to reading your comments of which gives me the opportunity to learn how others have dealt with life situations. (From a practical standpoint).

      Thanks Don for sharing. The best is still to come. Have a bless one.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s